If you are a person who thrives off of their G-cal and written to-do lists during the week and gets a bit antsy and anxious with an unplanned weekend- this post may resonate with you. This post stemmed from reflecting on the patterns of activities that I’ve engaged in on weekends that culminate to a Sunday evening sigh of relief that means “wow, that was a wonderful weekend”.
Obviously this post resembles an ideal list of happenings on my weekend. Sometimes life happens and I’ll have a weekend filled with writing a thesis or prepping for a huge presentation which is not in any way shape or form relaxing to me but such is life. You may read this and be like what? None of this resonates with me. You may especially feel like that if you are a spontaneous person. I am not spontaneous unless it involves a random ice cream run in sweat pants- lol!
I’m also not saying the way I live my weekend should be how you live yours but rather I’m showing you that for a type A person, having a bit of a rhythm is helpful. Helpful in moving you along to engage in your favorite activities rather than sitting there on Saturday morning overwhelmed by wanting to do your favorite things yet feeling to overwhelmed to get them organized.
Before describing this, I do want to say that over scheduling my life is actually a way that I enable and feed my anxiety. Maybe you do this too? It’s taken a lot of therapy for me to realize that being overcommitted to extra stuff is a way I can be so busy that I don’t have time to feel my feelings I’m trying to avoid. Not only is this not productive, it’s not healthy. I’ve learned that the only way out is through and to get over the hump of some bad stuff that inevitably happens in life you just have to face it head on. So this post is not feeding that horrible habit I have- it actually helps me be more present and less scheduled. I’ve also cut WAY back on my commitments this year and it really has been glorious but also hard- not so many distractions.
It took me till pushing 25 that recognizing a week day schedule works really well and more of a weekend rhythm works well so that I have the ability to ease into a weekend, Connie style. Leaving myself with no plans often leads me to an anxiety attack with the social media comparison monster fueling that (which is another thing I’m working on).
So, just like a loose meal plan can help you provide nourishing, flexible, and satisfying meals for yourself, so too can giving yourself a weekend mold to know what components you need on your life plate to be satisfied.
For me, I found that wherever I am in life the following 6 things when included in a weekend likely make for a sigh of relief that I’m feeling right now.
- Connection with friends and or family. Both is a bonus! I know that I thrive best from in person social connection and once I have that my heart feels all warm and fuzzy inside. I live with my parents currently, so at the very least I see them and often I’ll visit my Oma (Dad’s mom) and take her to lunch. I do try and get away from the house and remember that I’m 24, not 42 so I plan a happy hour or hike with a friend or group hangout if multiple people are available. If I can’t get the in person connection because all my friends are actually kicking booty in their careers leaving them needing some introverted time after a 60+ hour work or school week, I plan a call with a friend or family member on a walk. Many of my friends and family live out of state and connecting them monthly is important to me.
- Getting outside. Rain or shine I need to be outside. I need air. I’ve noticed that RDs don’t have the best work places! I mean for my rotation year I was inside a sweaty HOT kitchen all day, in the basement of a very large hospital next to the morgue, or in a back windowless office. I don’t see the light of day for hours on end and the weekend is a time where I can make some extended outside time to clear my head and lungs. I’ll take walks, a fun hike, or lay outside and get some Vitamin D if possible.
- Eating or drinking something fun! Whether it’s a donut I have to drive to the west side of LA for or a new restaurant that makes killer lattes, trying something out of the ordinary is a nice way to change up my taste buds. Like most people, I eat pretty much the same stuff during the week so the weekends are a welcome time for new flavors.
- Getting a few mundane tasks checked off real quick! Laundry, Marie Kondo-ing my closet again, grading papers, returning stuff that I ordered online that didn’t fit. Whatever it is, it needs to get done and I just prefer to rip of the bandaid and get the necessary stuff done in one sweep. Doing this on Saturday morning after I’ve had my first cup of coffee makes Sunday a lot less scary.
- Joyful movement. This is a must for me most of the time. Since my rotations have really kept me working 10-12 hour days that include breaks and the drive home, I am so pooped by the time I get home there is nothing left for me to move my body with. Weekends I have more energy stored up so I can take a nice relaxing yoga class or a longer walk. Nothing intense really ever happens though- I’m trying to maximize my relaxation here and cortisol release isn’t part of that for me.
- Time to do absolutely nothing. You need time to read a great book, take a NAP, gosh I love naps, or watch some shows that make you feel all the things. Season 3 of Queer Eye just came out and I am well on my way to finishing it. Sometimes I need a long bath, sometimes, I need to start a new show and just not move off the couch.
So those things when part of my weekend make me feel like I was out and about and taking time for myself. Do you have a weekend rhythm that makes for a satisfied Sunday evening? I would love to know!